Believing in Yourself is the First Secret to Success
What is about people who believe in themselves? Well Believing in Yourself is the First Secret to Success. We see it in the way they carry themselves, in the way they converse with others, and in the things they accomplish. Self-belief in action is an amazing thing to see, and something everyone should aspire to.
At the same time, we very quickly become intimidated by this kind of change. It seems like it would be hard to change how you think and feel about yourself. We tend to stop before we begin because it seems like only ‘special’ people are going to get ‘there.’
But is that true? A closer examination shows us otherwise. In fact, you’ll find people who believe in themselves have a lot of traits in common. Let’s look at some of those now.
They Know Where to Find Happiness
…and it’s not where you’ve been looking. People with self-belief know true happiness is something that comes from inside, not from how many toys you have or how many digits you have in your bank account.
You will never find true happiness in external things. Yes they will make you happy temporarily, but it is not a lasting happiness that can be maintained.
Lasting fulfilled happiness is absolutely achievable, by looking within yourself and truly learning how to enjoy the beautiful things around you, birds singing, the sun shining on your face, the breeze in your hair. By appreciating the small things, you will be given more things to appreciate in your life.
They’re Really Not Interested in What Everyone Else is Doing
With no judgment and even less interest in comparing themselves to others, people who believe in themselves tend to focus more on what they’re doing. The competition simply doesn’t matter. Nothing is more important to you than what you are doing. You are completely unique, so there really isn’t any need to compare yourself to other people, because it isn’t relevant anyway.
See yourself as a trendsetter, who other people follow. By comparing yourself to others, you are dulling your brightness. No one has the same goals as you anyway, so don’t waste your time.
They Pick their Battles
When you lack self-belief, you tend to say ‘yes’ to everything. The problem? If you don’t value your time, no one else will either. Learning which things to say ‘yes’ to and more importantly, how to say ‘no,’ shows the world around them their time is worth fighting for. High self-belief is one of the most powerful skills that you can learn, as it will stay with you for the rest of your life. You have to see yourself as the most important person in your life, because if you don’t, no one else will. Once you realise your own importance, you will find that, as you are putting yourself first, you will make better choices and feel completely comfortable saying no when you need to.
They Know When to Speak Confidently
There’s no waffling or room for wishy-washy statements in the world of self-belief. Your ‘yes’ means ‘yes.’ You use a phrase like, “I know…” or “I can…” without second-guessing or wondering if they really can follow through with what they’re saying. When you speak confidently, people listen. When you speak confidently people think that you know what you are talking about. People are very impressed by people that talk confidently and tend to look up to them. As the saying goes @It’s not what you s, but the way you say it’.
They Look for the Challenge
There’s nothing like a little healthy competition with yourself. Self-belief means you know the value of pushing to get to the next level. To a person with this kind of self-belief, life becomes almost like a game to move up by facing a challenge straight-on. People with high self-belief are not fazed by challenges. In fact challenges ignite their flames and gets their passion flowing. When the going gets tough, the tough get going. They tackle challenges head on and don’t stop until their have achieved their objectives.
They Know How to Fail
The person with self-belief isn’t afraid to try, which sometimes means not accomplishing what they set out to do. When that happens, they take the lesson learned without making excuses or worrying about how it looks. The best lessons in life are trying something, failing, getting back up, trying again and succeeding. Failure is only a sign of weakness if the person quits once they have failed. Successful people, try and try again and never stop, no matter how many times they fail, until they succeed.
They Don’t Need the Spotlight
When you believe in yourself, you don’t need accolades and are quick to point out the accomplishments of others. Most people with strong self-belief are modest. They know their value; they don’t need someone else to underscore it for them.
The amazing thing about all of these traits is just how easy they are to develop in yourself. By taking the time to build habits of self-belief, you’ll be amazed at how quickly you become one of those fantastic people who really believe in themselves.