How To Build Self Esteem in Adults.
Low self-esteem has become more and more of a problem, in recent times. Everyone seems to blame their own short comings as a reason why negative things are happening. i.e I’m rubbish at this, I can’t do this, I am too stupid etc. It it completely normal to have negative thoughts about certain things or situations, the damage is caused when you have more negative thoughts than positive ones. Negative thoughts only become a problem if allowed to linger.
Sadly, thousands of individuals, unfortunately, feel negative about themselves; albeit their appearance or current circumstance. and it is a habit that can quickly become worse and worse if not stopped, as negative thoughts attract more negative thoughts and so the situation continues.
In fact, Dr. Joe Rubino, the author of The Self Esteem Book, reported that over 85% of the world’s population suffers from having a low self-esteem. This statistic leaves us with a world full of beautiful people who are unable to see their beauty for themselves.
Are we all destined to live and die an unhappy life? Fortunately, the battle of low self-esteem can easily be won. Humans are creatures of habit. The best way to overcome a negative habit? By replacing it with a positive one.
Negative self-thinking is absolutely a learned habit that can be unlearned & conquered by changing the way you think. With a few simple tips and tricks, you’ll be able to increase your opinion of yourself and live a life of purpose.
Self-affirmations are an excellent way to identify your strengths. They are easy to do & can literally be done anywhere. The hardest thing, when you start using affirmations, is remembering to do them. Like any habit, it is hard at the beginning, but as you master the new habit, it becomes easier & easier, until it becomes almost second nature to you.
Once you get the hang of affirmations, you will start to look forward to doing them, because of the way that they make you feel and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, the more you do it the better you feel and the better you feel, the more you will do it.
Examples of affirmations to use.
- I am loved
- I am perfect exactly as I am
- I am lovable
- I am happy
- I am contented
- I love my job
- I love my house
- I succeed at everything I do
- I am worthy
- I am deserving
They can literally be anything that makes you feel good about yourself. Make a list of positive affirmations special to you. You can chop & change your affirmations, as you wish, but keep doing them as many times a day as you can manage. You can affirm a single affirmation, or a list of them. Whatever takes your fancy.
It’s simple, repeat your affirmation as many times a day that you can manage. A really easy way to amplify your affirmations, is to say them out loud in front of the mirror, whilst looking into your own eyes. This is very strange when you first do it, but do persist, as it is wonderfully powerful to stare in the mirror and list their positive qualities daily.
The key here is to focus on what you appreciate about yourself; not others. Once you’ve gotten into the habit of feeding your mind with positivity, you will find that the previous negative voice will start to quieten & eventually silence. Changing your thinking is crucial if you want to raise your self-esteem. You must believe you are great in order to exude it.
The more you reduce the negative thought chatter in your head, the quicker you will start to feel better about yourself. It isn’t possible never to have another negative thought, but the important thing, is to become aware of the negative thought and replace it with a positive one as quickly as possible.
Make better food choices
Living well isn’t limited to engaging in exciting activities or making tons of cash. It’s a deeper connection to your body, mind, and spirit. The foods you consume have a lot to do with your moods. In fact, foods high in dairy and processed sugars are recipes for disaster if you’re trying to think positively. Being mindful of what you put into your body will make you glow from the inside out!
In addition to eating well, engaging in some sort of physical activity is beneficial to your overall health. Getting outside and taking in the sun will boost your serotonin, also known as, the happy chemical in your brain. Simply being outside in the fresh air is a real mood booster & a really easy way of giving yourself a treat that makes you feel better. When you take care of your body and mind, you are saying to yourself that you are deserving of things that make you feel good, which changes how you view yourself. You’ll become stronger both mentally and physically.
Choose Your Company Wisely
Self-esteem obviously starts from within. However, surrounding yourself with positive people will only encourage you to continue to think happy thoughts about yourself. We have all been around people who literally leave us feeling completely drained, which obviously is not counter inductive to improving ones self-esteem.
Choose to be around people who recognize your strengths and uniqueness and acknowledge how great you are and this creates a beautiful healthy space. The danger in attempting to improve your self-esteem while surrounding yourself with negative people is that their mentality will eventually rub off on you.
You’ll begin to live in that space of negative thinking without even realizing the repercussions. People who inspire you, motivate you and challenge you are friends that will support your esteem. They respect you, so they would never intentionally attempt to taint your character. Positive people attract likeminded positive people who think similarly & both sides gain from this.
Believe in yourself
You must live with yourself for the rest of your life. Learn to enjoy your own company. Why not make the experience a great one! We all have so many unique talents and opportunities to give to the world. It’s only right that we see the beauty we possess within ourselves; this then reflects out for other people to see.
By making the above tips a form of habit, you’ll be well on your way to improving how you see yourself and living a purpose filled life.
Always remember – You are incredible and worthy of wonderful things.